"You might be married to the worst man on earth, like Asiah who married Pharoah, but it didn’t change her goodness or her aqidah. You might be married to the best man on earth, like Prophet Lut’s wife, yet that doesn’t mean you’re going to Jannah with him. You might not be married at all, like our beloved Maryam (raa) yet Allah swt places your status above all other women on earth. Have faith in Allah always & place your full trust in Him. He’s the central focal point of our lives." [Heba El-Haddad]
I woke up this morning with that quote ringing in my mind...I had read it a few days ago but somehow its effect on me is only surfacing today.
Anyway. Jodoh. What IS jodoh?
I dont have the english word for it though.
Most people translate this literally as 'mate'...most in my social circle translate jodoh to mean spouse & the relationship between them.
I don't believe in those definitions. They are too short-sighted and narrow, especially when you integrate religion and life experiences and philosophical ideas of marriage and relationships into it.
Jodoh. Just like our life and death/ajal...it is all pre-determined. My understanding of jodoh is more of a concept of predetermined soulmates.
"Exalted is He who created all pairs - from what the earth grows and from themselves and from that which they do not know."- Yaasiin, 36.
Everyone has their jodoh.
And you will be with your jodoh in Heaven thereafter. Whether or not you are lucky enough to meet your jodoh in this life, is a different story. Some people may never meet their jodoh, as jodoh includes lives lost in aborted fetuses, deaths in children, etc.
The Malays always say 'dah tak ada jodoh' whenever a relationship/marriage fails...how can that be, when God Himself has created you and your jodoh? The logical reason is, he/she wasn't your jodoh in the first place. He/She was a rezeki, a blessing for that period of time. You mean to say if you do marry again, you found another jodoh? Let me ask you, does ajal come twice?
Lets say you have an illness, that doesnt mean you know how your ajal will come.
Similarly, just because you are in a relationship, does not mean you have found your jodoh.
Bottomline : only God knows whether or not you are with your jodoh.
Be the best you are, and be grateful for the person that you have.
I'm suffering now because my gf, who truly believes in jodoh, can;t figure out, me or the other person is her jodoh. Is it possible, that can be somehow obvious or ... only time will tell ? Do people from your region and religious (she's from Sumatra), consider that they can make mistake with choosing a jodoh and after that can they come back to another person and consider him after that jodoh too, because the first one didn't prove to be that kind of person ? I'd like to get the answer to my e-mail.. oops.slavster@gmail.com
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